Relationship - Advice Needed UPDATE 4

noooo dont reply at all......be strong.

by repling your giving her a chance to explain herself and you'll find it hard to say no.

just ignore her, then maybe in a week say

'your stuff is ready to be picked up'

be cold and distant....dont get sucked in

 

^^^^ I'm with Recardo on this one

 

urrrggggghhh

 

What now Nick?!

 

It's make your mind up time.Do you want her or not?If you do,then there's no point playing stupid games.Just remember that sometimes you might think you want things back,but is it because you are really in love with her or just want something safe?
Easy trap to fall into,but it'll catch up with you later.
She doesn't sound like she's really that up for it imo.Just using you as something to fall back on cos she knows you're there.
Lay it on the line and see what she says.If she's in any doubt,then leave it alone.If you are doubting,tell her it's over.Get her stuff out of your face and delete her number.

 

stop right there its too early for me yet

 

Yes take away the temptation.

I did this once and it worked a treat.

(but every time he txt I was like..whos this?)

 

it's never too early

 

That's it.
Agree 100% (that's what i was trying to tell)

 

Get a room you two

 

it is when you got a head ache and yer dogs
quietly chewing his way through yer funiture [:^(]

 

i disagree.....he should even think about being with her.....maybe girls are different and forgive easier but she has been with another bloke....maybe even while they were together.

think about that for a second....

 

cheers recardo [:^(]

i'm going to send the message i think and forget about till i hear something back.

 

Thats easy for you to say, but if you actualy really care
about someone its well dificult, its happend to me
once and i had to speak to her cos i was so used to
speaking to her everyday i still hav'nt forgot it and still
think about her sometimes but i made a wrong
decision buy ignoring her in the end [:^(]

 

At the end of the day m8, i wouldn't have a prefabricated answer. Take everyones advice yeah, but no one can make a decision for you or how to convey it. If it comes from you, it'll become part of a growth process and you'll be better for it the next time something similar happens(if it does)

 

I'd text what you said mate then add on the end that her stuff is ready and waiting for her....... just get rid of her and move on..... this is the advice i need to take..... [:^(] 1000 times easier said than done though [:^(] [:^(] [:^(] [:^(] [:^(] [:^(]

 

true mate.

that's why i'm going for that answer because that is the one i was edging towards before it was confirmed on here if you know what i mean.

that's why i threw the situation up here to get other peoples opinions.

 

Totally agree.

This doesn't just apply to girls you're 'just shagging'. And it doesn't matter how much you love a girl either, as soon as their feelings have changed then you need to accept it and move on or be f*cked about and ground into the ground until you're a snivelling wreck.

 

Oh and deleting her number from your phone is a very powerful move which will give you more of a sense of control.